Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in your Relationships

Book - 1992
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Popular marriage counselor and seminar leader John Gray provides a unique, practical and proven way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them. Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets. Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Based on years of successful counseling of couples, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior to promote a greater understanding between individual partners. Gray shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected by male intimacy cycles ("get close", "back off"), and female self-esteem fluctuations ("I'm okay", "I'm not okay"). He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs. With practical suggestions on how to reduce conflict, crucial information on how to interpret a partner's behavior and methods for preventing emotional "trash from the past" from invading new relationships, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a valuable tool for couples who want to develop deeper and more satisfying relationships with their partners.
Publisher: New York, NY : HarperCollins, c1992
Edition: 1st ed
ISBN: 9780060168483
Branch Call Number: 646.78 GRAY
Characteristics: x, 286 p. ; 22 cm

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Jun 26, 2019

As a 28 year old male, I had allot of "ah" moments as I read this. It has allot of practical guidance on the subject, and practical everyday tools to use. It is impossible to learn it all at once for me, but the author does a great job on repeating highlights without being annoying. He seemed to repeat exactly what I needed to re read. It will be a book I will reference back to, again and again.

Jan 27, 2019

A self-help classic that still rings true today!

bibliosara Feb 01, 2018

This book has always been a title that has been referred to by many of my family members. I finally decided to read it myself, and I'm very glad I did!
I read some reviews of this book prior to reading it and was concerned by the comments about John Gray's anti-women type assumptions. However, this is not at all the case. Some other reviewers commented about the generalized assumptions that were made. Well, it is a self-help book. It's going to generalize, because he is sharing common behavioral trends. If you need specific advice, go see a counselor.

SO, about the book... John Gray is one of the best authors I have read at providing a fair interpretation of the behaviors of both genders. Let's face facts. Men and women tend to think differently. That's what it can be confusing having a debate with someone of the opposite gender. Men and women focus on different ideas, details, and goals.

I really appreciated the clear explanations John Gray provided... he uses analogy, personal experience, as well as anecdotes from previous clients. It reads well, is easily understandable, and provides easily applicable pointers. Although there were occasional assumptions that Gray makes that I disagreed with, I would agree with about 90% of his advice on principal. What's great about this book, is it makes it obvious that there ARE differences between men and women, and that we need to accommodate for those differences in our relationships. We should be giving one another the benefit of the doubt, and working for our relationships instead of expecting to always be in the easy breezy honeymoon phase.

I highly recommend that every couple read this book together and take what applies to them and leave what doesn't. Anyone can benefit if you read with an open mind, and a willingness to acknowledge your own faults, weaknesses, and unique attributes. Paired with "5 Love Languages", this will open your mind to a new way to approach your relationship!

smileybutt1 Feb 12, 2013

This really opened my eyes - great book! I am asking my significant other to read it!

HanakoGal Jul 28, 2012

This is a book that’s easy to read and understand. The major themes of this book focus on learning and listening to other’s point of view, and responding to them with kindness and respect. We get specific tools and examples on how to do this; on how to share our views and feelings, and how to ask for support and help. It was very interesting and made me see some things in a different way. I enjoyed reading this book.

Dec 14, 2010

A very helpful book! I'm so glad I read it!


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